Sunday, January 6, 2008


Your husband is the best thing
that ever happened to me.
A great guy for my best friend
and he was a sight to see.

When he found that I had no one,
he was always the gentle man,
volunteering to do the little things
for which I had no plan.

I understand how you love that man.
He is a beauty to behold.
When I started feeling things,
myself I began to scold.

Placing distance between us,
girl I just had to.
I was losing control of my emotions
the beating of my heart too.

But his sweetness
(and our friendship)
his gentle nature
(and our gossip)
his neo soul ways
(and our manicure trips)
just kept bringing me back.

You argued with him one day (and you do that a lot).
With him you asked me to talk.
He reluctantly ran it down to me,
didn't seem that it was his fault.

He didn't want to talk about it
Your privacy he keeps close
but because you sent me to him,
On my heart he wrote his post.

So long he's been so miserable
Just trying to keep the peace,
trying to make you happy
but going down to defeat.

He broke down in my arms,
cried like babies with stolen candies.
I don't know what was wetter
His face, or my panties.

He tore himself away from me
saying my touch was just not right.
But he appreciated my listening,
Maybe we could talk again another night.

I must confessed I dreamed of him,
elaborate scenarios created.
He took me around the world and back again.
We laughed, we talked, we dated.

But one day you must have pushed him
just a little bit too far.
I happened to be at the mall that day,
saw him sobbing in his car.

This is ridiculous I said,
"Do you want to come to the house?"
He hesitantly agreed.
Once there was quiet as a mouse.

He just looked at me
with pain etched in his face.
I just looked at him
and felt his every ache.

Can't explain what happened next.
It was all just one big blur.
I only know I started it.
In my loins that familiar stir.

He held me as he cried and cried.
I held him as I came and came.
He roared his passionate frustration.
I screamed and yelled his name.

I know that what I've done is wrong
How could I a best friend be?
But your husband is the best thing
that ever happened to me.

Exo 20:14

©SojournerG 2008 All rights reserved


Femigog said...

I want to condemn the speaker but I cant. I know the commandments well and I agree, I truly do but solitude is such a starving and barren place. I feel for the speaker. Not noble but hey, so much of the human existence is just so very human...
great piece

Mizrepresent said...

Wow! That was something. Yeah to let herself go there is/was a big mistake because she can never go back, and the guilt. It's really about the temptation, and how we must resist it's first stirrings. Loved it!

clnmike said...

Lol, thats cold blooded!

MzPoetiK said...

This had me caught up even tho from first line I knew where it was going...too bad she went there...Nice write!

MysTery said...

That's all I can say.

Anonymous said...

@Fem-As always, interesting perspective. What about condemnation for the other two points of the triangle?

@Pahtnah-Yep...that temptation is a mug! And he/she/it/lives on a slippery slope!

@clnmike-Happens every day...

@Mzpoetik-I gotta stop leading the witness huh? LOL

@Mystery-"Ooooo" is enough. Thanks.

CapCity said...

I'm with MzPoetik - knew she/they were doomed from that first line ... don't know if U can control the hands of life fates, twists & turns, Bro G - but I guess maybe u can try to "temper it" in poems;-)

nameless.poetical. said...

nice.i like this...

Ali's Zay said...

RE-WIND! I don't even know where to start. I'm feeling this on several levels. I've been in this and been so grateful for that... shoulder? Ya know. Any way, lemme stop for I git myself in trouble. LOL

Peace and Love,

Ali's Zay (

Ali's Zay said...

OK, All kidding aside. When a man breaks down to the point of tears, that's some serious shit. I'm not going to defend the "other woman", and the wife is obviously not doing right, but brother man needs to man up and handle his business at home. Victim is not a good look on a man. In my experience, a man needs to leave no doubt in the mind of his partner that he is a man. Instead of crying to the other woman, he should go home and take his frustration out on his wife. Amazing how some good sex can adjust a woman's attitude. If that was more than two cents, keep the change, I got plenty ;-)

Peace and Love,

Ali's Zay (

Anali said...

That's quite a poem! Scary. With friends like that...

lea78 said...

I wanna whoop her ass. G I had no clue this was u writing this I was actually looking for Miz. But you know how to touch on some topics. I knew she was about to do that. You got my blood over here boiling. LOL

Anonymous said...

@Cap-First, GREAT to see you! We've been missing each other between hiatus'. Glad you're back to your writing wonders.
As far as the piece, chile, life has a billion and one stories. I just bootleg 'em from the back of the theatre. LOL

@Nameless.poetical-Thank you!

@Ali's Zay-As always, you have a strong point. But what's up with ol' girl SENDING her dude to someone else. Do women really do that? If so, WHY?!?!? Guys get rapped a lot for being both stupid and doggish...but sending your man to another? For what? Talk about (wo)manning up and handleing business. As far as a man being a man, I agree again, with this one caveat: pain, drama, doing your best to take care of home and STILL being knocked down has a cumlative affect. EVERYONE has a breaking point. Even the bible says, "It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house." Prov 21:9. I would never justify the brother stepping out, I'm just sayin' everybody has a breakin' point. Have you never been so disgusted with your experience with someone that you just didn't want the nana? I have.

I'll keep that change Doc. I might need it!

@Anali-"These are the tales of the naked city..."

@Lea-I knew you'd get stirred up li'l lady. I can see where this would hit home too. But hold you hope. You are on the upward trail!
As for the li'l this, a li'l that.

Ali's Zay said...

G, I must confess to having some extremely painful experience in this department as well. I've been pushed past MY breaking point several times, each time ending in divorce. But while I had legitimate beefs against these women, I decided to fix the only thing I have any control over: ME. Part of my recovery (Lovers Anonymous) is my determination to be the best ME I can be and that means taking responsibilty instead of blaming others, REGARDLESS of their faults.


Zay (

Anonymous said...

@AZ-Brother! If we would ALL just do that!...

BloggersDelight said...

Sojourner G, your ability to capture the nuances in relationships without judgment, never ceases to amaze.

nikki said...

it's never as cut and dried as depicted in fiction, is it? well done, luv.

CapCity said...

Hey Bro G! Good to "see" U, too - as always! Thank goodness for this spot = feels like the ONE place where I can run into a BUNCH of good friends;-)

Anonymous said...

@BD-Thank you for the thought. You see, judgement is not mine. Even I stand yet to be judged by He who knows all...

@Nikki-So glad to see you circulating in again. Gurl, as fierce a writer as you are, you know that it's never cut and dried in even in fiction written well...
Don't be a stranger.

@CAP-It's the Super Greatland of the blogosphere!

Mega Rich said...

Yeah, I have to agree with Cap. With less and less time to blog these days, it's great to come here and find some of my favorite peeps.